What abuse of cyberspace can do to you

Did you know?

  • Young adults who have a strong social network site presence show more signs of other psychological disorders, including antisocial behaviors, and aggressive acts?
  • Social networking sites can be distracting and can negatively impact learning. College students constantly on social network sites achieve lower grades?

Let’s face it…

  • You have a huge friend list full of people who are not actual friends. You spend more time chatting to people that don’t matter than with the people that actually do.
  • Friend or foe. It is hard not to accept friendship request. People you hardly know anything about become friends and have access to personal and information.
  • It is difficult to delete an account .With most social networking sites if you delete an account or spend time away when you come back your profile is readily available.

Some tips on how to stop wasting time on social networking sites

 Ignore requests . When someone sends you a request, you may not be able to see the full details of the request. Don’t feel you have to respond to those requests. They do take time.

Stop the constant emails : Click settings (top right) and choose Account settings, then the Notifications. Switch most of the options to "off". You may have to click Show more at the bottom to select for all applications, and you may need to do this again when you add new applications.

Avoid games and third-party applications (apps) . Playing games, decorating your profile , and rating your friends will suck up your time before you know it.

Go offline chat . If you are a Face Book addict, click on the Chat button in the bottom right corner and choose "Go Offline.”. Lots of time can be wasted on Facebook if you're waiting for a friend to reply to a message before you know it you are looking at some pictures and a hour is gone. Don’t stay logged on after sending a friend a message or a Wall post, either. You'll reply next time you go on.

Bring a timer with you to the computer and get off as soon as your time is up. . If you use Firefox, you can use the LeechBlock add-on to track your time spent  

Find a hobby . Take up some leisure activities such as soccer, tennis .table tennis or chess or join a club, they are over thirty of these at MSU. You need will to do these activities when you feel strong urges to get up and go visit the websites at odd times.

Spend quality time with family and friends you need to log out to spend time with the people who actually do matter.

THE TRUTH ABOUT PORN

We might think that the things we see and hear don't affect us. Yet we all admit that good music, good movies and good books add a lot to our lives. They can relax us, educate us, move us or inspire us. Just as uplifting media can benefit us, pornographic images can negatively affect us.

Porn is big business that makes a lot of money and doesn't care how. They'll show you whatever they think will make you come back and buy more. You can't learn the truth about sex from pornography. It doesn't deal in truth. Pornography is not made to educate, but to sell. So, pornography will tell whatever lies attract and hold the audience. Get the facts!!!...

What Fuels Porn Addiction

One of the most vital parts of mental environment is a healthy idea of who we are sexually. If these ideas are polluted, a critical part of who we are becomes twisted. The porn culture tells you that sex, love and intimacy are all the same thing. In porn, people have sex with total strangers -- people they just met.

“All that matters is my satisfaction. It doesn't matter whose body I'm using, as long as I get it. Porn gets you to think that sex is something you can have anytime, anywhere, with anyone, with no consequences.”

The problem with porn's shallow perspective is that relationships are not built on sex, but on commitment, caring and mutual trust. In that context, like fire in the fireplace, sex is wonderful. Being with someone who loves and accepts you, someone who is committed to you for your whole lives together, someone you can give yourself completely to, that is what makes sex really great.

What are the effects of pornography on a man?

What kinds of ideas is porn putting into our heads? If the wrong things keep getting dumped in, your mental environment can get so polluted that your life is going to have problems.

 

To Find Freedom from Porn Addiction: Recognize the Lies

Porn thrives on lies -- lies about sex, women, marriage and a lot of other things. Let's look at some of those lies and see just how badly they can mess up your life and attitudes.

 

Lie #1 - Women are less than human

The women in Playboy magazine are called "bunnies," making them cute little animals or "playmates," making them a toy. Penthouse magazine calls them "pets." Porn often refers to women as animals, playthings, or body parts. Some pornography shows only the body or the genitals and doesn't show the face at all. The idea that women are real human beings with thoughts and emotions is played down.

 

Lie #2 - Women are a "sport"

Some sports magazines have a "swimsuit" issue. This suggests that women are just some kind of sport. Porn views sex as a game and in a game; you have to "win," "conquer," or "score." Men who buy into this view like to talk about "scoring" with women. They start judging their manhood by how many "conquests" they can make. Each woman I "score" with is another trophy on my shelf, another "notch" in my belt to validate my masculinity.

 

Lie #3 - Women are property

We've all seen the pictures of the slick car with the sexy girl draped over it. The unspoken message, "Buy one and you get them both." Hard-core porn carries this even further. It displays women like merchandise in a catalog, exposing them as openly as possible for the customer to look at. It's not surprising that many young men think that if they have spent some money taking a girl out, they have a right to have sex with her. Porn tells us that women can be bought.

 

Lie #4 - A woman's value depends on the attractiveness of her body

Less attractive women are ridiculed in porn. They are called dogs, whales, pigs or worse, simply because they don't fit into porn's criteria of the "perfect" woman. Porn doesn't care about a woman's mind or personality, only her body.

 

Lie #5 - Women like rape

"When she says no, she means yes" is a typical porn scenario. Women are shown being raped, fighting and kicking at first, and then starting to like it. Porn teaches men to enjoying hurting and abusing women for entertainment.

Lie #6 - Women should be degraded

Porn is often full of hate speech against women. Women are shown being tortured and humiliated in hundreds of sick ways and begging for more. Does this kind of treatment show any respect for women? Any love? Or is it hatred and contempt that porn is promoting toward women?

Lie #7 - Little kids should have sex

One of the biggest sellers in pornography is imitation "child" porn. The women are "made-up" to look like little girls by wearing pony tails, little girl shoes, holding a teddy bear. The message of the pictures and cartoons is that adults having sex with children is normal. This sets the porn user up to see children in a sexual way.

Lie #8 - Illegal sex is fun

Porn often has illegal or dangerous elements thrown in to make sex more "interesting." It suggests that you can't enjoy sex if it isn't weird, illegal or dangerous.

Lie #9 - Prostitution is glamorous

Porn paints an exciting picture of prostitution. In reality, many of the women portrayed in pornographic material are runaway girls or have been trafficked and are now trapped in a life of slavery. Many having been sexually abused. Some of them are infected with incurable sexually transmitted diseases that are highly contagious and often die very young. Many take drugs just to cope.

Bottom Line of Porn Addiction

Pornography makes a profit from the ruined lives of young men and women and entraps men who will spend lots of time AND money succumbing to their product.

Images are not always neutral. They can persuade us. Businesses know that if they can get a persuasive image of their product in front of you during a highly emotional moment, it will sink into your subconscious mind. The advertising scientists are so good at what they do, they can predict just how much more of their product you will buy if you see their advert. Sometimes, viewers don't even see the name of the product. If a split second view of a product -- even when it's not the center of attention -- can affect people's behavior, imagine the effect of a movie that keeps your attention glued to the screen for an hour and a half with sexually explicit images.

Porn Addiction: The Pull of Pornography

Not everyone who sees porn will become addicted. Some will just come away with toxic ideas about women, sex, marriage, and children. However, some will have some kind of emotional opening that allows the addiction to really grab hold. The porn companies don't mind at all if you become completely addicted to their product. It's great for business. The progress of addiction can be categorized into several stages; addiction, escalation, desensitization, and acting out. Let's look at these stages:

EARLY EXPOSURE

Most guys who get addicted to porn start early. They see porn when they are very young and it gets its foot in the door.

PORN ADDICTION

You keep coming back to porn. It becomes a regular part of your life. You're hooked and can't quit.

ESCALATION

You start to look for more graphic pornography. You start using porn that disgusted you earlier. Now, it excites you.

DESENSITIZATION

You start to become numb to the images you see. Even the most graphic porn doesn't excite you anymore. You become desperate to feel the same thrill again, but you can't find it.

ACTING OUT SEXUALLY

This is the point where men make a crucial jump and start acting out the images they have seen. Some move from the paper and plastic images of porn into the real world, with real people, in destructive ways.

Porn Addiction: Am I Addicted?

If you see any of these patterns in your life, you need to put the brakes on right now. Is porn becoming more and more in control of your life? Do you have trouble putting it down? Do you keep going back for more?

Kicking addiction to porn

Admit you have a problem . The first thing you've got to do is admit that you struggle with pornography. You are not strange or unusual if you do. Millions of men are at various stages in the struggle with porn. It's really not surprising. The porn industry has spent billions of dollars trying to snare you. Is it really shocking that they have succeeded? For some of you there may also be issues in your past, such as abuse or sexual exposure, that makes porn addiction even harder to shake. There is only so much you can do in fighting addiction without help.

You need someone to help you break this addiction . Overcoming the secrecy is absolutely vital. You probably can't escape addiction without it. That doesn't mean everyone has to know you're struggling. Pick someone you can trust who counsels men who are having problems with addiction -- a pastor, youth group leader or counselor. Someone you can completely trust, feel safe with and has experience in the area of addiction isn't going to be surprised.

Find a hobby. You need an alternative activity to occupy the vacuum or void that is left by your giving up porn. There are plenty of things you can do, there are over forty clubs and societies, including sport which are active on the MSU campus. Some departments have societies, get involved and stay involved. Channel your energy into something positive.

 

This website is being maintained by the ITS Department